A few years ago on one of psychological training I sewed the doll. From old mittens turned out cute doll with pigtails, but at the last moment my eye caught a large pink button with two holes. Without hesitation, I sewed this button on the place where should be the spout. Instead the girls turned out to be the mumps. I looked with surprise at what I created with my hands. I felt sorry for this silly naive pig which dressed up in skirt, tied bows, but this does not become a man. I named the doll with Darling and came up with about her tale. History was somehow sad. Understanding what all this is about me, came later. Initially, there were feelings of resentment, shame, anger and unbearable pain.
The process of healing the Child within oneself (“Divine child” as defined by Carl Jung) is long and painful. Sooner or later life puts every adult to have to revise their views and attitudes, change behavior, and often himself. It is obvious that in the childhood it is necessary to find the starting point of today’s problems, conflicts, emotional problems. Resentful, scared, hungry for love Continue reading
What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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Depending on the age of the child, his behavior and personality, parents can apply a variety of methods of education. The choice of parents used methods largely depends on how the parents themselves were brought up, how is the level of pedagogical and psychological knowledge, etc.
Important role when choosing methods of education is the parent’s behavior, which can be authoritarian, a complacent and democratic.
Parenting techniques not only allow to create a harmonious, Mature personality, sometimes they become the causes of many psychological complexes.
Basic methods of education
Method conversation or beliefs . This method can be applied in the education of children of different ages and with any character. During the conversation, the parent explains, and argues for how one ought to behave in a given situation, figures out the motives of the baby. The tone of the speech of the parent in conversation should be calm, confident and solid. Even year-old kids who can’t answer, listen carefully to the parent in response to the tone.
Method of positive reinforcement . Reinforcements are certain steps parents following action or deed. Reinforcement can be positive or negative (positive). Negative reinforcement we refer simply Continue reading