What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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Any methodological imperfection, especially any methodological deviation from the natural physiology of the child, our children suffer corporal-motor, spiritual and mental underdevelopment, and often undermine a viable force.
Analyzing over two decades of teaching practice, come to a disappointing conclusion: the increase of pedagogical skill comes at the price of deep enslavement of moral, mental and physical potentials have entire generations of people, price of forever extinguished sparks of curiosity and samotarev.
By the end of the twentieth century, the situation becomes tragic epidemic. How can we be? Neither the art nor the talent of the teacher does not answer fundamental questions: what is the scientific basis for deriving the one or other technique. In the name of what she offers and what she carries for a comprehensive physical and mental development of the child? No talent, no art teacher replication are not subject. Any attempt to replicate them lead to “the killing” very methodical “soul” — creative improvisational freedom. Any methodology should be based on strict natural laws of child development. The development is a category, behind which are hidden deep internal processes of emancipation biogenetic species programmes, which were initially enslaved in the deep condition. And do we know anything Continue reading
Depending on the age of the child, his behavior and personality, parents can apply a variety of methods of education. The choice of parents used methods largely depends on how the parents themselves were brought up, how is the level of pedagogical and psychological knowledge, etc.
Important role when choosing methods of education is the parent’s behavior, which can be authoritarian, a complacent and democratic.
Parenting techniques not only allow to create a harmonious, Mature personality, sometimes they become the causes of many psychological complexes.
Basic methods of education
Method conversation or beliefs . This method can be applied in the education of children of different ages and with any character. During the conversation, the parent explains, and argues for how one ought to behave in a given situation, figures out the motives of the baby. The tone of the speech of the parent in conversation should be calm, confident and solid. Even year-old kids who can’t answer, listen carefully to the parent in response to the tone.
Method of positive reinforcement . Reinforcements are certain steps parents following action or deed. Reinforcement can be positive or negative (positive). Negative reinforcement we refer simply Continue reading