For any family member divorce – this is a big stress, which is the hardest outlive the children. Psychological help in this situation is necessary not only to alleviate the situation for children at the time of the divorce, but also to minimize the likelihood of its negative emotional impact on their future.
One can argue about what to look for when choosing a life partner, and that caution should be against even the little things (“multiply one hundred all the traits of your partner before marriage and get the character of the future wife”). But if prior to the marriage relationship was truly perfect, and together the pair have started to encounter problems that they cannot overcome nor themselves, nor sometimes even with the help of a psychologist, it is often the only way out is divorce.
Marriage – this is not something that is artificially supported, if to save him is impossible, and life with the unloved person may turn into a constant hassle because sometimes irritate any act of a spouse. Later Continue reading
Resentment is a negative emotion, is a protective reaction of the body that occurs in response to the violation of the psychological borders on understatement of human virtues and criticism.
Emotions from the wrongs inflicted recorded, and all subsequent violations of the psychological space of the reaction is repeated and recorded in the subconscious mind as a destructive program .
The offense has magnetism, it is able to attract other grievances again and again. Resentment is toxic, because it is a negative emotion, with frequent repetition, resentment accumulates in the subconscious, not finding out corrodes energy and often materializes on any body that leads to serious illness. In this case we can say that not all diseases of the nerves, and from contaminated subconscious and accumulated grievances.
As you know, the strongest resentment we receive in childhood. and they lead us the rest of your life, giving people an inferiority complex, aggression, hatred, fear. Offence – it is a psychological invasion, from which the child is unable to protect his fragile psyche, for lack of his experience, knowledge and skills, defensive action that is necessary in this situation.
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Question: Good afternoon.in our family, this situation – my wife and I got married a month ago. she has a baby she is 7 years old. the last time she(the passenger seat) behaves not very adequate and we are concerned about her psychological and mental state.before the child that was not noticed and now she has a very frequent psychos. the existence of razdrozhitelnosti and not sderjannost for any reason. there is also the fact that at the moment she is to be with the mother(vremeto resting in the country).but the symptoms started 1.5 months ago. question actually I think you can understand. but I would like to know what is this behavior and what could affect it,we have the assumption that this is possibly a manifestation of jealousy towards the mother or the influence of mothers-in-law. I would like to know what to do and how to deal with it and whether it is necessary to struggle. thank you in advance
Reply: Dear Tosha! I think that Your assumptions are correct. Changes in the family are themselves painful for the child, and here the situation develops without it. You need to pick her up from grandma and give it Your maximum attention (read together, go for a walk, draw, sculpt, etc.) that it “thawed”, calmed down and began Continue reading