“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young how to feed, she remembered, as did the same for her mother. Modern women somewhere inside, in the subconscious, there is a neediness in this experience, in order Continue reading
Depending on the age of the child, his behavior and personality, parents can apply a variety of methods of education. The choice of parents used methods largely depends on how the parents themselves were brought up, how is the level of pedagogical and psychological knowledge, etc.
Important role when choosing methods of education is the parent’s behavior, which can be authoritarian, a complacent and democratic.
Parenting techniques not only allow to create a harmonious, Mature personality, sometimes they become the causes of many psychological complexes.
Basic methods of education
Method conversation or beliefs . This method can be applied in the education of children of different ages and with any character. During the conversation, the parent explains, and argues for how one ought to behave in a given situation, figures out the motives of the baby. The tone of the speech of the parent in conversation should be calm, confident and solid. Even year-old kids who can’t answer, listen carefully to the parent in response to the tone.
Method of positive reinforcement . Reinforcements are certain steps parents following action or deed. Reinforcement can be positive or negative (positive). Negative reinforcement we refer simply Continue reading
There are few families in which spouses do not argue and quarrel. If these exist, they are considered ideal for families. However, it is not so, because the couple quarrel can get rid of excess stress, negative emotions and to forget about personal grievances, pouring out his soul. But not everyone knows how to fight. What quarrels often turn into a real battle, where all the tricks are good.
Quarrel: the first years of life together
In order to answer the question of how best to quarrel, to begin to analyze the relationship between the spouses. The only way You will be able to determine how easy or hard You have a case, and as You do!
For example, the first fifteen years of marriage disputes can occur due to the fact that the couple defend their rules of behavior and habits. Wife lapped each other and change as the lapping characters. During this period, quarrels often arise due to domestic issues. And here just it is necessary to teach each other to have mutual respect and correctly to fight, so as not to allow family problems to be fixed.
Quarrels with the appearance of children
The way of life of the spouses changes completely the appearance Continue reading