We simplified the limit: go to the theatre in shorts, transport forget to give, instead of the classics voraciously read cheap novels, on TV watching action movies and TV series “soap”, and then wonder why our children are uncivilized. How to teach your child (along with myself) good manners and good taste?
You still doubt that this is necessary? Be aware that this is almost the only chance to protect their child from… drugs and alcohol! There is nothing strange – the degree of internal culture depends on the degree of addiction to harmful addictions. English scientists were interviewed more than 1,000 people and found that from fans of classical music only 1.5% are friends with “green snake”. And 24 % of the fans of electronic music and hip-hop too fond of alcohol, drugs and indiscriminate sex. By the way, the same pattern was observed in ancient times. Even Xun Tzu, philosopher of ancient China, wrote: “When the music is empty and vicious, the people dissolved and lazy, dick and contemptible”. Now you can say the same for blank books, movies and games. Thus, to influence a better future for their children, urgent start their “civilize”!
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We almost got used to the complete lack of a systematic approach in the management culture of our country. Theatres for considerable budgetary funds trying to exercise maximum ingenuity in the matter of repertoire, offering the viewer a “salad” of classical pieces, torn to pieces and artificially re-stitched brilliant contemporary Directors, talented actors all available ways of trying to attract attention, shocking, but ultimately provoke in the viewer is not culture shock, and negative and irritation. The result is visible immediately, as if in a doctor’s surgery — all artificial climbing out badly tailored seams and does not want to become one.
Today the attention of the authorities to the culture, to the problem of upbringing of the younger generation, in fact depart on the second plan. And if authorities have long given up on the culture (today it is perceived familiar and common), the situation with education is, to say the least, fear. Mixed feelings not only engenders the formation of school programs, new textbooks, systems assessments and exams (though it does not add optimism!), but the lack of a systematic approach to the learning process. Where is the goal, where are we going, what do we want from our children? Why you need higher education, Continue reading
What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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