A few years ago on one of psychological training I sewed the doll. From old mittens turned out cute doll with pigtails, but at the last moment my eye caught a large pink button with two holes. Without hesitation, I sewed this button on the place where should be the spout. Instead the girls turned out to be the mumps. I looked with surprise at what I created with my hands. I felt sorry for this silly naive pig which dressed up in skirt, tied bows, but this does not become a man. I named the doll with Darling and came up with about her tale. History was somehow sad. Understanding what all this is about me, came later. Initially, there were feelings of resentment, shame, anger and unbearable pain.
The process of healing the Child within oneself (“Divine child” as defined by Carl Jung) is long and painful. Sooner or later life puts every adult to have to revise their views and attitudes, change behavior, and often himself. It is obvious that in the childhood it is necessary to find the starting point of today’s problems, conflicts, emotional problems. Resentful, scared, hungry for love Continue reading
What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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Child of the chest: he put it, and then get.
Problem: How to correct behavior teenager, his moral values? How and what kind of experience is formed in children as a result of interaction with parents?
The aim of the study: to determine the dependence of the child’s behavior from attitudes of parents (through the method of projection “parent-child”)
Objectives: (4 slide)
to get acquainted with the principles of the method of projections;
to analyze (imagine) the results (diagnosis) with parents and children;
to formulate principles of influence on adolescent behavior.
Teacher: We are used to justify all the problems of a transitional age, the wrong school system, instability in the world and in the country. And began to forget that in many respects we are the creators of our “problems”.
If the parent finds the courage to acknowledge the existence of the problem; find the time, will find the strength to solve their “problem” properly, the child will grow up happy and complete, and will be able to become a good parent for their children.
The child watches the parents go with him, with each other and with other people. During Continue reading