Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in Russia. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store are no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.
Foundations of education in Japanese society tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. This permissiveness in child adult Japanese citizens differ in their ability to live of the interest of the team or firm, and law-abiding.
What Russians consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight at the festival, running a red sign or a traffic signal for the Japanese violation of the rules, the Commission of which is impossible. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood that the foundations of education.
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We all come from childhood, and our behavior at the table is a reflection of the habits of the parents.
Nothing creates a person, as a daily, regular activities. And what could be more regular than the meal? Reasonable and the question becomes: how to teach your child the culture of behavior at the table? What age to start and what habits to cultivate? That child in good stead, but that would be secondary and even unnecessary?
Mustache flowed – it and some got in my mouth
A very young child it is impossible, of course, to explain that the knife should be held in the right hand and fork in left. What sort of knives and forks, when the most pressing issue is how the spoon actually hold in your hand! And convey to the mouth with any presence of food – in the beginning generally at the level of the feat.
So parents, while there is time, is to think and Refine their own manners – they don’t even realize how young children are sensitive to the atmosphere in the house. And if mom or dad will scold the kid for uncleanliness when eating, one should recall the rule of parenting: the child does not, as he is told, and so, as adults themselves do. So the first joint of the meals: napkins on the table, beautiful dishes, no Kulkov with uncut bread Continue reading
A few years ago on one of psychological training I sewed the doll. From old mittens turned out cute doll with pigtails, but at the last moment my eye caught a large pink button with two holes. Without hesitation, I sewed this button on the place where should be the spout. Instead the girls turned out to be the mumps. I looked with surprise at what I created with my hands. I felt sorry for this silly naive pig which dressed up in skirt, tied bows, but this does not become a man. I named the doll with Darling and came up with about her tale. History was somehow sad. Understanding what all this is about me, came later. Initially, there were feelings of resentment, shame, anger and unbearable pain.
The process of healing the Child within oneself (“Divine child” as defined by Carl Jung) is long and painful. Sooner or later life puts every adult to have to revise their views and attitudes, change behavior, and often himself. It is obvious that in the childhood it is necessary to find the starting point of today’s problems, conflicts, emotional problems. Resentful, scared, hungry for love Continue reading