A few years ago on one of psychological training I sewed the doll. From old mittens turned out cute doll with pigtails, but at the last moment my eye caught a large pink button with two holes. Without hesitation, I sewed this button on the place where should be the spout. Instead the girls turned out to be the mumps. I looked with surprise at what I created with my hands. I felt sorry for this silly naive pig which dressed up in skirt, tied bows, but this does not become a man. I named the doll with Darling and came up with about her tale. History was somehow sad. Understanding what all this is about me, came later. Initially, there were feelings of resentment, shame, anger and unbearable pain.
The process of healing the Child within oneself (“Divine child” as defined by Carl Jung) is long and painful. Sooner or later life puts every adult to have to revise their views and attitudes, change behavior, and often himself. It is obvious that in the childhood it is necessary to find the starting point of today’s problems, conflicts, emotional problems. Resentful, scared, hungry for love Continue reading
We almost got used to the complete lack of a systematic approach in the management culture of our country. Theatres for considerable budgetary funds trying to exercise maximum ingenuity in the matter of repertoire, offering the viewer a “salad” of classical pieces, torn to pieces and artificially re-stitched brilliant contemporary Directors, talented actors all available ways of trying to attract attention, shocking, but ultimately provoke in the viewer is not culture shock, and negative and irritation. The result is visible immediately, as if in a doctor’s surgery — all artificial climbing out badly tailored seams and does not want to become one.
Today the attention of the authorities to the culture, to the problem of upbringing of the younger generation, in fact depart on the second plan. And if authorities have long given up on the culture (today it is perceived familiar and common), the situation with education is, to say the least, fear. Mixed feelings not only engenders the formation of school programs, new textbooks, systems assessments and exams (though it does not add optimism!), but the lack of a systematic approach to the learning process. Where is the goal, where are we going, what do we want from our children? Why you need higher education, Continue reading
What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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