What moms and dads make mistakes in parenting– we all know it, and perhaps even normal, especially for young, inexperienced parents…
Often standing at the cash register in the store, we see the same picture: cries and tantrums of a child who wants so he bought some sweetness. And they, by the way, as luck would have it exhibited at the checkout. In our article we have sought the experience of German psychologists who talk about the errors made by the parents in the upbringing of children.
How to raise a child
German child psychologist Wolfgang Bergmann explains the problem of education of children with deep insecurities of parents: “Modern parents are more indecisive in matters of education than it did a generation ago. They know a lot, but, as it turns out, I don’t know anything…”
Being a parent is so hard because this is a new period of life. 100 years ago every family was brought up at least 5 children. Older children and parents participate in the education of their younger brothers and sisters. Still, the birth rate dropped significantly, families are all later. Because modern parents, in the majority, want to “stand up”, to make a career, and then start thinking Continue reading
Resentment is a negative emotion, is a protective reaction of the body that occurs in response to the violation of the psychological borders on understatement of human virtues and criticism.
Emotions from the wrongs inflicted recorded, and all subsequent violations of the psychological space of the reaction is repeated and recorded in the subconscious mind as a destructive program .
The offense has magnetism, it is able to attract other grievances again and again. Resentment is toxic, because it is a negative emotion, with frequent repetition, resentment accumulates in the subconscious, not finding out corrodes energy and often materializes on any body that leads to serious illness. In this case we can say that not all diseases of the nerves, and from contaminated subconscious and accumulated grievances.
As you know, the strongest resentment we receive in childhood. and they lead us the rest of your life, giving people an inferiority complex, aggression, hatred, fear. Offence – it is a psychological invasion, from which the child is unable to protect his fragile psyche, for lack of his experience, knowledge and skills, defensive action that is necessary in this situation.
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Many parents do not think about this issue – communication happens by itself, they are happy and the parents and the children. While. But there are adults who have already realized the great importance of the communication style to the personality development of their child.
It is experimentally proved that if the baby gets good nutrition and good medical care, but deprived of regular contact with an adult, he develops not only mentally, but also physically: not growing, lose weight, lose interest in life. However, as food can be harmful and incorrect communication can hurt the psyche of the child, his emotional well-being and will subsequently impact on his life.
How to communicate with your child? This question is complicated and simple at the same time. Difficult due to our style of communication is influenced by many factors, most of which we are not aware. Experts came to the conclusion that the parent’s interaction involuntarily imprinted in the psyche of the child before school age. As an adult, a person plays it like a natural. Thus from generation to generation is social inheritance of the style of communication: the majority of parents raise their children the way they themselves were raised in childhood. At the same time, the way we interact with the child depends on the fashion Continue reading