“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young how to feed, she remembered, as did the same for her mother. Modern women somewhere inside, in the subconscious, there is a neediness in this experience, in order Continue reading
Game for the youngest children need to teach your baby to communicate. After all, a newborn baby only knows how to scream. When he grows up, his face can recognize emotions. Of course, the smallest baby’s reflex occurs. The task of the mother – using games to teach your child to consciously Express his wishes. To understand without words what he could not Express in speech.
The game “showing the finger”
In this game we with her little daughter started to play with four or five months. I was holding her in his arms, carried through all the rooms, pointed at objects and loudly called them. Especially we poked a finger at those objects that satisfy the need of my little daughter. It’s food, clothes, toys. So popular we enjoyed the family members. And my daughter’s favorite things – a lamp, dog, butterfly in the picture. Of course, this game is not really developing speech. For the child has learned the first communication, pointing to desired objects.
When the baby learned to sit, I bought her some colorful books for the very young. I remember when my daughter was sitting in a chair, propped up by a pillow. I gave her all four books. Then my child didn’t understand why we need these bright squares. Continue reading
Resentment is a negative emotion, is a protective reaction of the body that occurs in response to the violation of the psychological borders on understatement of human virtues and criticism.
Emotions from the wrongs inflicted recorded, and all subsequent violations of the psychological space of the reaction is repeated and recorded in the subconscious mind as a destructive program .
The offense has magnetism, it is able to attract other grievances again and again. Resentment is toxic, because it is a negative emotion, with frequent repetition, resentment accumulates in the subconscious, not finding out corrodes energy and often materializes on any body that leads to serious illness. In this case we can say that not all diseases of the nerves, and from contaminated subconscious and accumulated grievances.
As you know, the strongest resentment we receive in childhood. and they lead us the rest of your life, giving people an inferiority complex, aggression, hatred, fear. Offence – it is a psychological invasion, from which the child is unable to protect his fragile psyche, for lack of his experience, knowledge and skills, defensive action that is necessary in this situation.
Sometimes, Continue reading