Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in Russia. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store are no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.
Foundations of education in Japanese society tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. This permissiveness in child adult Japanese citizens differ in their ability to live of the interest of the team or firm, and law-abiding.
What Russians consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight at the festival, running a red sign or a traffic signal for the Japanese violation of the rules, the Commission of which is impossible. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood that the foundations of education.
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Here I will describe how I managed my ward, using the principle of a sperm, to educate their children or at least to achieve some positive results. Read their stories.
How do I wean my son screaming
When my son was seven years old, when all the misunderstandings he raised the cry. I pleaded with him, commanded, demanded, threatening. But to no avail. Then I decided to use the principle of sperm. One day when the son raised a cry, I started screaming too, but not at him, and something of their own. I screamed much louder than it was, for us on a psychological trainings taught it too. It was summer, and the window we had opened, and we lived on the second floor. Son, heard my cry, pounced on me and demanded that I stop crying, because in the courtyard for all to hear. I listened to it. Several times I had to repeat it, and with shouts we had finished.
As I taught their children to read
Sometimes I’m in their presence was reading a book, wishing that they too had read. They asked what I was reading. I told them this book to read early and hid it so that they found it. So I was able to direct the reading of their children. When one of my sons then started Dating a girl whom I had a good relationship, she confessed to me that I had no idea that in our time Continue reading
A few years ago on one of psychological training I sewed the doll. From old mittens turned out cute doll with pigtails, but at the last moment my eye caught a large pink button with two holes. Without hesitation, I sewed this button on the place where should be the spout. Instead the girls turned out to be the mumps. I looked with surprise at what I created with my hands. I felt sorry for this silly naive pig which dressed up in skirt, tied bows, but this does not become a man. I named the doll with Darling and came up with about her tale. History was somehow sad. Understanding what all this is about me, came later. Initially, there were feelings of resentment, shame, anger and unbearable pain.
The process of healing the Child within oneself (“Divine child” as defined by Carl Jung) is long and painful. Sooner or later life puts every adult to have to revise their views and attitudes, change behavior, and often himself. It is obvious that in the childhood it is necessary to find the starting point of today’s problems, conflicts, emotional problems. Resentful, scared, hungry for love Continue reading