What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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Child of the chest: he put it, and then get.
Problem: How to correct behavior teenager, his moral values? How and what kind of experience is formed in children as a result of interaction with parents?
The aim of the study: to determine the dependence of the child’s behavior from attitudes of parents (through the method of projection “parent-child”)
Objectives: (4 slide)
to get acquainted with the principles of the method of projections;
to analyze (imagine) the results (diagnosis) with parents and children;
to formulate principles of influence on adolescent behavior.
Teacher: We are used to justify all the problems of a transitional age, the wrong school system, instability in the world and in the country. And began to forget that in many respects we are the creators of our “problems”.
If the parent finds the courage to acknowledge the existence of the problem; find the time, will find the strength to solve their “problem” properly, the child will grow up happy and complete, and will be able to become a good parent for their children.
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Meanie ordinary (Vir Cupidus Vulgaris) is a species of men, occurring often, women unloved.
And finally: what we believe are greedy? Usually the person who refuses to fork out in a situation where Noblesse oblige: to pay the bill along with his drinking buddies, give a girl flowers, etc. However, the “clamping” can be not only financial, but also emotional, and time resources.
Rich meanie, poor meanie
Relatively zhadin there are two sustainable mutually exclusive of prejudice:
Who is poor and greedy;
All the rich is a terrible hog.
Neither that, nor another is not true. And then: a lot depends on requests. Attempt to reduce the unpretentious young lady in the school instead of pretentious cafes can be interpreted as greed. But if for the sake of this campaign to the man will have a week to tighten the belt in front of us, the attraction of unprecedented generosity.
Person secured too easy to seem greedy enough to do something not corresponding to the level of aspiration ladies. He has a generous investments and Royal gifts, and he… well, we all have pre-calculated budget, where generous gifts may not fit.
And yet: sometimes we are confronted with examples of greed that is difficult to explain upbringing, habits, or budget.
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