There are few families in which spouses do not argue and quarrel. If these exist, they are considered ideal for families. However, it is not so, because the couple quarrel can get rid of excess stress, negative emotions and to forget about personal grievances, pouring out his soul. But not everyone knows how to fight. What quarrels often turn into a real battle, where all the tricks are good.
Quarrel: the first years of life together
In order to answer the question of how best to quarrel, to begin to analyze the relationship between the spouses. The only way You will be able to determine how easy or hard You have a case, and as You do!
For example, the first fifteen years of marriage disputes can occur due to the fact that the couple defend their rules of behavior and habits. Wife lapped each other and change as the lapping characters. During this period, quarrels often arise due to domestic issues. And here just it is necessary to teach each other to have mutual respect and correctly to fight, so as not to allow family problems to be fixed.
Quarrels with the appearance of children
The way of life of the spouses changes completely the appearance Continue reading
For any family member divorce – this is a big stress, which is the hardest outlive the children. Psychological help in this situation is necessary not only to alleviate the situation for children at the time of the divorce, but also to minimize the likelihood of its negative emotional impact on their future.
One can argue about what to look for when choosing a life partner, and that caution should be against even the little things (“multiply one hundred all the traits of your partner before marriage and get the character of the future wife”). But if prior to the marriage relationship was truly perfect, and together the pair have started to encounter problems that they cannot overcome nor themselves, nor sometimes even with the help of a psychologist, it is often the only way out is divorce.
Marriage – this is not something that is artificially supported, if to save him is impossible, and life with the unloved person may turn into a constant hassle because sometimes irritate any act of a spouse. Later Continue reading
Fears inherent in all children. They are – is a normal stage of maturation of the child’s psyche, a natural reaction to the knowledge of the outside world.
Fear fear discord
Each age has its fears. In the third year of life, children are usually afraid of the dark, lonely and confined space (for example, lifts or toilets). At the same time the child “acquires” the artificial fears that his “reward” parents: fear of fairy-tale characters, animals… He might be afraid of fires, wars, criminals. Some are afraid to ride a roller coaster, swim in the pool, don’t go to the doctor, startled by unexpected sounds.
A big part of fear is temporary, they don’t need to fight, you just need to support the child, to ease his worries by taking this feature of his mental development. However, there are other fears, they are called “neurotic”. They are based – mental shock, trauma, cruelty on the part of adult, family conflicts, high level of anxiety among parents. Such fears themselves are not, it requires the assistance of specialists (psychologist, therapist), and change in parenting style.
What are they afraid of?
Older preschoolers are more likely to experience fear of death, which reaches its climax in 6–7 years. Continue reading