A few years ago on one of psychological training I sewed the doll. From old mittens turned out cute doll with pigtails, but at the last moment my eye caught a large pink button with two holes. Without hesitation, I sewed this button on the place where should be the spout. Instead the girls turned out to be the mumps. I looked with surprise at what I created with my hands. I felt sorry for this silly naive pig which dressed up in skirt, tied bows, but this does not become a man. I named the doll with Darling and came up with about her tale. History was somehow sad. Understanding what all this is about me, came later. Initially, there were feelings of resentment, shame, anger and unbearable pain.
The process of healing the Child within oneself (“Divine child” as defined by Carl Jung) is long and painful. Sooner or later life puts every adult to have to revise their views and attitudes, change behavior, and often himself. It is obvious that in the childhood it is necessary to find the starting point of today’s problems, conflicts, emotional problems. Resentful, scared, hungry for love Continue reading
Blog Ll Sviridenko: the most Important thing in children’s portrait – children sincerity, spontaneity and ease
The most important thing in children’s portrait – children sincerity, spontaneity and ease
Photography was always my hobby, but at a certain stage of my life, it became for me something more…
I myself was born in Odessa, at age 18 he moved to the capital and entered the Kiev national economic University, the faculty of management of organizations. Being in my second year I received the gift of my first professional camera and fell in love with this the shutter sound, even then I realized that for me photography is about art and not just a hobby, that want something more. With its decision decided not to delay – after knew I gave birth to a daughter and immediately went to the Institute of postgraduate education of Kyiv national University of technologies and design faculty ART PHOTOGRAPHY. After the birth of my beautiful daughter, I am like most moms, month after month has become to capture every smile, grimace, every step, every memorable moment of their toddler. Then started to remove the other children, and with each shot, with each babe I just fell in love with this carefree, unique children’s world, in these fragile children’s images, sincere expressions of joy, surprise, delight, laughter… Continue reading
What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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