How to raise a child in good taste, manners, politeness, taste
We simplified the limit: go to the theatre in shorts, transport forget to give, instead of the classics voraciously read cheap novels, on TV watching action movies and TV series “soap”, and then wonder why our children are uncivilized. How to teach your child (along with myself) good manners and good taste?
You still doubt that this is necessary? Be aware that this is almost the only chance to protect their child from… drugs and alcohol! There is nothing strange – the degree of internal culture depends on the degree of addiction to harmful addictions. English scientists were interviewed more than 1,000 people and found that from fans of classical music only 1.5% are friends with “green snake”. And 24 % of the fans of electronic music and hip-hop too fond of alcohol, drugs and indiscriminate sex. By the way, the same pattern was observed in ancient times. Even Xun Tzu, philosopher of ancient China, wrote: “When the music is empty and vicious, the people dissolved and lazy, dick and contemptible”. Now you can say the same for blank books, movies and games. Thus, to influence a better future for their children, urgent start their “civilize”!
Have to start with yourself. The purchase of art books will not help, if you watch “House 2”. The child will not behave nicely at the table, if you eat from the pan and listen to the classics, behind the wall if you kerf the chanson. The children will not listen to our instruction, they will look at what we actually do and copy the actions. The proof will that the children of famous actors, artists and writers say that they had not specifically “civilize” – just in their homes have always been good music, interesting guests, and clever books.
Already more than half a century we know about the discovery by scientists that the baby is perfectly perceive the music of Mozart and Vivaldi are still in the womb. Therefore, it is possible to cultivate a taste for good music even before birth. If you are late, then nothing is lost – enable your child to DIFFERENT kinds of music. Let along with children’s songs sounds folklore, jazz, classical. It is important to have samples of quality music, and not a primitive of consumer goods, which is full of all TV channels. The experts recommend starting with jazz – it is easier to read, and after it the child will be ready to listen and classics.
Be sure to ask your child what he feels, listening to the music accompaniment. He seems happy or sad, want to hide, or jump for joy. Just don’t turn the conversation into a boring lecture to your child fell asleep from boredom. You aren’t trying to search the chirping of birds hidden subtext, and just enjoy their trills.
To instill interest in the “right” music, let’s listen to it in small quantities at first it will be enough and five minutes. Then the child will be begging for more.
Often children try to come up with their music. Help him out – purchase the children’s world orchestral set (drums, flute, synthesizer), may be able to experiment with sound in your absence.
Start to visit a music school. Do not be afraid that the child will cease to be on time for school subjects – scientists in Switzerland and Austria as a result of their research, concluded that playing music and everything connected with it, promotes better assimilation of the exact Sciences and foreign languages. And in America, scientists noticed that the 4-7-year-old developmentally delayed children, playing musical instruments, able to overtake their more developed peers in math and reading.
The rapid development of good taste and manners of the child promotes reading, and the more, the faster. But not cheap detectives, teenage magazines and romance novels, and literature. Reading can be trained from the cradle. Among the rattles should be books that are water and baby teeth (already are on sale there!). Let the kid gets used, books that accompany him everywhere.
Try to read themselves. When the baby often sees their parents reading books, with time and he will be addicted to reading, and not to drink. Reading aloud at bedtime adore even younger students.
Most often antipathy to books begins in adolescence. Think about the bounty. If your teenager today has more to read, let them an hour longer sit at the computer or walk. If you think that this method is questionable, first try. It is clear that at first, your teenager will have to fight yourself, but with time he will get the hang of. The main thing is that the book was his own age. “War and peace” 10-year-old will be incomprehensible, and “the adventures of Tom Sawyer” at the time. A good option may be the audio books you can listen to them on the road and at bedtime.
Very productive “civilize” themselves and their children through visits to theatres, museums and exhibitions. Just be careful to select – child-should be interesting. In museums where the exhibits are hands can not touch it, he will raise a howl of anguish, but there are museums where the rule is missing. There tours are conducted outside the box, creatively. Not necessarily at one time to go around the Museum – it is enough to see with a child 3-4 pictures of those that I especially liked.
So did the theatre. It makes no sense to go to shows a few times a week – even every trip will be a holiday. Make an avid theatergoer teen – aerobatics! But it is quite real if to start with youth theatres – the special atmosphere and the intimacy that there are rulers, Teens very impressed. Then you can move on classical theater. No wonder it is believed that people who regularly attend the theatre, get a degree in Humanities!
If the correction of the aesthetic tastes of the case is usually quite easy, on the elaboration of good manners have to sweat. Information about the etiquette you can find a lot on the Internet, and in books. For even the smallest cartoons take on this topic. In many cities opens school of good manners, working on the weekends. But the basics of etiquette laid only in the family.
Teach your child to memorize the names of the interlocutors. This is the best way to gain confidence.
From the cradle teach your baby to say Hello. Six months already can wave a hand, 3-4 –year-old understands, who is to say “you” and who is “you”. Accustoming the child to be polite from an early age, “output” you will get not the sullen teenager who during OOBE discontentedly muttered “Hello” and polite young man who is pleasant to deal with and the senior and the Junior.
To educate in accordance with gender. Future knights since kindergarten you know what headgear indoors shoot, girls skip forward, lend them a hand, stepping out of the transport and dads with their own example that no one will do. If a girl learns from an early age to accept help from the boys gratefully (if he carries her heavy briefcase or helps to wear a coat), she’s going to grow up to be a real woman, able to respect a man nearby. Maybe then the family will become stronger, and the woman get rid of the syndrome of “I”?
And last. Discount on the mandatory age! And years to three kids can be specially anything such is not to teach, provided that in the family courtesy is the norm of communication. With a preschooler can play etiquette, modeling the situation with dolls and toys. A young student is being very ambitious. It will suit a medal for every perfect polite thing to do. The medal can be any symbol or ice cream. The main thing is that the award is consistent with the act.