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When to teach children the culture of behavior at the table?


We all come from childhood, and our behavior at the table is a reflection of the habits of the parents.

Nothing creates a person, as a daily, regular activities. And what could be more regular than the meal? Reasonable and the question becomes: how to teach your child the culture of behavior at the table? What age to start and what habits to cultivate? That child in good stead, but that would be secondary and even unnecessary?

Mustache flowed – it and some got in my mouth

A very young child it is impossible, of course, to explain that the knife should be held in the right hand and fork in left. What sort of knives and forks, when the most pressing issue is how the spoon actually hold in your hand! And convey to the mouth with any presence of food – in the beginning generally at the level of the feat.

So parents, while there is time, is to think and Refine their own manners – they don’t even realize how young children are sensitive to the atmosphere in the house. And if mom or dad will scold the kid for uncleanliness when eating, one should recall the rule of parenting: the child does not, as he is told, and so, as adults themselves do. So the first joint of the meals: napkins on the table, beautiful dishes, no Kulkov with uncut bread (and suddenly it will be necessary!) and most importantly – relaxed, friendly atmosphere.

Dining table & #8211; energy center of any apartment. In a rich apartment – richer, poor – poorer; round, square, rectangular – it is an island of comfort, pleasant sensations, a symbol of family unity. We can say that this is the main piece of furniture, and if it is beautiful – well, when you eat off it. well-educated people – all great! So cleanliness on the table – mandatory, beautiful table setting – desirable, family dinners – preferred.

At the tender age of self food the baby is not only proteins, fats and carbohydrates, but also an element of education.

When trying to kid himself – he is worthy of praise and encouragement. And mouth and bib then I clean up. But in the future parents will not have to wrestle with why their child is dependent and afraid to take the initiative. Not the fact that it will do for feeding, but… who knows where they come from, these complexes, and why so hard to leave.

When to start the training of cultural behavior at the table?

Best of all – the birth, personal example. But specific rules to teach when the child is confident with a spoon. Usually after a year the children get it.

Important rule: no talking with your mouth full. Here it is useful to justify why: you can choke – and this, unfortunately, happens more often than we would like, and out of respect for the companions. For younger children, the simpler explanation – to have food falling out of his mouth and flew to the neighbor.

If the child is so smart and begins to ask questions – why am I supposed to do that, you should explain all these rules were not invented in order to make his life harder, and based on years of observations.

How food digests better – in a quiet environment;

why elbows are never put on the table – prevents neighbors;

why do you need napkins to wipe your mouth (and, sometimes, the nose);

to say “thank you” – for what did they feed you: grow up, will understand how difficult it is…

Actually, no need to make a difference in the behavior of “child” and “child at home”. If the child is not accustomed to at home there are carefully and correctly, away from him to be a gentleman or lady just will not work. However, as in the adult. Therefore, always and everywhere at the table, fork in left hand, knife in the right. If you want to use the spoon right (although lefties will not appreciate this, as if they were not well-bred).

Don’t slurp, there are soundless on the bottom of the dish not to knock the plate of soup not to tilt, selecting all, to the last drop: we are proud, not very much and wanted! The rest of the food is also not up to the last crumb to choose, especially (b-R-R-R) collecting bread.

From a common Cup to take special food stuck in there with a spoon. Cakes and pastries eat special forks, have teaspoons is a widespread misconception that can be excused only because… well, 70 years of Soviet rule – where are the nobles, and where we are. But to seek something right!

Next: from a common dish to take little. Not out of principle: not really wanted, but due to the fact that if they will not like.

What melon is eaten with a special fruit with a knife and fork – this is for aesthetes. Not all will be useful.

The only difference in behavior at home and away is that the house is not necessary to wait until all family members will complete the meal: we should not make meals in prison. Ate, said “thank you” – and went about their business, the main thing that finished up at the table and not in the hallway.

Mouth be accustomed to rinse after every meal is a must. If this will be a very good habits, do not have to visit the dentist often.

But guests should not jump when you find the leisurely guest – and to rush it in any case should not be.

If a dish does not want the child politely says, “Thank you, I don’t want”. Conversely, if not enough, politely asks: “Can I have another?”.

At the table, however, as elsewhere, it is important not what to say and how to say it. Therefore, the words “thank you”, “can”, “please” should be familiar in the lexicon of the child.

Desirable change devices in the transition from salads to hot. Do not hold hodgepodge-Ratatouille from a variety of dishes in a single plate.

Dessert (I mean, cakes-cakes) is served only when carried out the last piece of meat and the last plate of salad. And get the children organized and more or less together. And who said that the high life is easy.

In some families practice a separate table for adults, a separate children’s. Nothing else except the desire to break from their children, it is impossible to explain. Where’s the nepotism, where the natural parents control children’s behaviour at the table? Where shared conversations in which taught that adults are not supposed to interrupt? Or children already so independent? Alas, I must live with the understanding that in parenthood no selling!

Serving: what and where

Following increasingly gender lines, to the table setting you can attract girls, and boys. A person brought up any sex this skill will be useful. Here, of course, holiday & daily servings will vary.

Daily it will not only be served, but also help the mother, to which should be taught as early as possible. Of course, sorry for the broken plates and cups, nedonesenii to the table – but to pay for everything! But then don’t have to beg to help: when it becomes a habit, there will be conversations.

Festive table setting has its own rules that you should remember. So: a table covered with a tablecloth. Linen is preferred, but definitely no cloths.

The child puts (under the strict guidance) plates: stepping back from the edge countertops – flat is large and deep, if you want the soup. In deep dish puts napkins – I can handle it. Further, on the right knives, blades to the plate. The left fork, teeth up, over the plate spoons, the handles turned to the right. At the same time teach left-right, top – down.

If canteens are some of the items that are placed in the increasing – learns in the process the size of the objects. Slightly diagonally, from left glasses or cups.

A few years of patience, comments, broken plates and mutual efforts – and a child ready for life in high society.

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