“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young how to feed, she remembered, as did the same for her mother. Modern women somewhere inside, in the subconscious, there is a neediness in this experience, in order Continue reading
Depending on the age of the child, his behavior and personality, parents can apply a variety of methods of education. The choice of parents used methods largely depends on how the parents themselves were brought up, how is the level of pedagogical and psychological knowledge, etc.
Important role when choosing methods of education is the parent’s behavior, which can be authoritarian, a complacent and democratic.
Parenting techniques not only allow to create a harmonious, Mature personality, sometimes they become the causes of many psychological complexes.
Basic methods of education
Method conversation or beliefs . This method can be applied in the education of children of different ages and with any character. During the conversation, the parent explains, and argues for how one ought to behave in a given situation, figures out the motives of the baby. The tone of the speech of the parent in conversation should be calm, confident and solid. Even year-old kids who can’t answer, listen carefully to the parent in response to the tone.
Method of positive reinforcement . Reinforcements are certain steps parents following action or deed. Reinforcement can be positive or negative (positive). Negative reinforcement we refer simply Continue reading
Game for the youngest children need to teach your baby to communicate. After all, a newborn baby only knows how to scream. When he grows up, his face can recognize emotions. Of course, the smallest baby’s reflex occurs. The task of the mother – using games to teach your child to consciously Express his wishes. To understand without words what he could not Express in speech.
The game “showing the finger”
In this game we with her little daughter started to play with four or five months. I was holding her in his arms, carried through all the rooms, pointed at objects and loudly called them. Especially we poked a finger at those objects that satisfy the need of my little daughter. It’s food, clothes, toys. So popular we enjoyed the family members. And my daughter’s favorite things – a lamp, dog, butterfly in the picture. Of course, this game is not really developing speech. For the child has learned the first communication, pointing to desired objects.
When the baby learned to sit, I bought her some colorful books for the very young. I remember when my daughter was sitting in a chair, propped up by a pillow. I gave her all four books. Then my child didn’t understand why we need these bright squares. Continue reading