What prevents to build such relations, which are valuable for both parents and children? Let’s try to understand this from the point of view of the psychology of relationships .
First things first: since I’m talking about adult children, let’s define some terms: who is an adult? If your child’s mental development is normal, in 18 years it is perfectly normal to supererogate (separated) from the parents! He unconsciously preparing themselves for adult life and independence.
Instead enjoy such adult child, parents start to behave just the opposite: panic, throw tantrums, start fighting for is still important (for them) the place of a parent in the life of a son or daughter.
Dear parents, please understand that your children don’t belong to you. They are not a thing, not your property, they are completely separate and independent from you personality. It is difficult to understand, it requires courage and boldness.
Once you have given birth to their children. Have you ever wondered why? After all, you gave birth to them for their own enjoyment. You wanted to be touched by them and to meet their needs in motherhood and fatherhood. What does your children? so why, even when they are already 18, you continue to want to see their young? You still want to have control and power over them. Not selfishness?
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Child of the chest: he put it, and then get.
Problem: How to correct behavior teenager, his moral values? How and what kind of experience is formed in children as a result of interaction with parents?
The aim of the study: to determine the dependence of the child’s behavior from attitudes of parents (through the method of projection “parent-child”)
Objectives: (4 slide)
to get acquainted with the principles of the method of projections;
to analyze (imagine) the results (diagnosis) with parents and children;
to formulate principles of influence on adolescent behavior.
Teacher: We are used to justify all the problems of a transitional age, the wrong school system, instability in the world and in the country. And began to forget that in many respects we are the creators of our “problems”.
If the parent finds the courage to acknowledge the existence of the problem; find the time, will find the strength to solve their “problem” properly, the child will grow up happy and complete, and will be able to become a good parent for their children.
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Perhaps no baby is complete without one or other bad habits. Some people chew their nails, someone sucking your thumb, someone twirling in his fingers a strand of hair, and someone even pulls out all the hair. There are habits that parents are embarrassed to discuss even with a psychologist. Meanwhile, all the habits one reason — they appear when the child is left alone with their fears, unable to Express them, to overcome.
The four year old goes to kindergarten only with his beloved stuffed dog. He will not part with it for a moment, and in moments of reverie or unrest begins to suck her paw. Numerous attempts by the caregiver to interest the child other toys nor to no avail, finding your next dog, baby covered with cold sweat and even begins to cry and shake. Clearly, in order not to bring the boy before the next attack, just leave it alone.
Mother claims not to remember that her son had such an affection. But with a toy he doesn’t leave at least the last two years. In conversation with the psychologist revealed that about two years ago mom went to work. Obviously, it happened then the transfer of the senses of the baby with mom on endangered thing. The child was afraid to be without my mom and the toy was always there. So he began to perceive it not as an inanimate object, but as a native person, as a friend, with whom it is impossible to leave.
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