What moms and dads make mistakes in parenting– we all know it, and perhaps even normal, especially for young, inexperienced parents…
Often standing at the cash register in the store, we see the same picture: cries and tantrums of a child who wants so he bought some sweetness. And they, by the way, as luck would have it exhibited at the checkout. In our article we have sought the experience of German psychologists who talk about the errors made by the parents in the upbringing of children.
How to raise a child
German child psychologist Wolfgang Bergmann explains the problem of education of children with deep insecurities of parents: “Modern parents are more indecisive in matters of education than it did a generation ago. They know a lot, but, as it turns out, I don’t know anything…”
Being a parent is so hard because this is a new period of life. 100 years ago every family was brought up at least 5 children. Older children and parents participate in the education of their younger brothers and sisters. Still, the birth rate dropped significantly, families are all later. Because modern parents, in the majority, want to “stand up”, to make a career, and then start thinking Continue reading
Thinking is the process of formation of representations about the world on the basis of accumulation and analysis of personal experience and also the ability on the basis of this experience to make predictions. Thinking gives you the opportunity to obtain such information about the phenomena and objects of the world which cannot be directly perceived by the senses (for example, information about the properties of matter, the laws of the historical process, etc.). Thinking is closely related to such a property of consciousness, such as memory.
Let us consider the main stages of development of thinking in a child under 3 years old.
From birth to 6 months the world is perceived by the baby in the categories of “here” and “now”. The child still “not started” memory, so there is no time sensitivity, and repeatability of events and phenomena; every object and situation is perceived as something unique.
Nevertheless, the cognitive needs of the child are very strong at this stage, and the kid quickly and successfully learns to perceive and process information. In 4-5 months are prerequisites for the development of the visual-active thinking, “responsible” for the perception Continue reading
Resentment is a negative emotion, is a protective reaction of the body that occurs in response to the violation of the psychological borders on understatement of human virtues and criticism.
Emotions from the wrongs inflicted recorded, and all subsequent violations of the psychological space of the reaction is repeated and recorded in the subconscious mind as a destructive program .
The offense has magnetism, it is able to attract other grievances again and again. Resentment is toxic, because it is a negative emotion, with frequent repetition, resentment accumulates in the subconscious, not finding out corrodes energy and often materializes on any body that leads to serious illness. In this case we can say that not all diseases of the nerves, and from contaminated subconscious and accumulated grievances.
As you know, the strongest resentment we receive in childhood. and they lead us the rest of your life, giving people an inferiority complex, aggression, hatred, fear. Offence – it is a psychological invasion, from which the child is unable to protect his fragile psyche, for lack of his experience, knowledge and skills, defensive action that is necessary in this situation.
Sometimes, Continue reading